I’m just a regular guy who got lucky. Well, that’s what my friends think. You see, I’m dating a fashion model. Not just any fashion model, but the most gorgeous, popular model on the block. I love her and she loves me. So far so good, right? Unfortunately, I’m worried because things are going too well. It doesn’t help when friends don’t take our relationship seriously and assume I’m only dating her because of her looks. They are always asking me questions about things they think must be causing problems in our relationship. Well, here is my response:
Don’t you get jealous when other guys ogle your girlfriend?
I’m proud of her and I like that she always looks gorgeous. What matters is how she perceives it. She enjoys the admiration and attention for the most part, but it doesn’t go to her head. Modeling is a pretty cut-throat business and you are always surrounded by plenty of beautiful people of both sexes. Even the most beautiful have experienced rejection and they have learned not to get too hung up on looks. When jealousy threatens, I remind myself that looks don’t last forever, so why not enjoy the attention while you can?
Aren’t you worried she will dump you for someone more glamorous and fashionable?
Actually, my girlfriend really values me for characteristics other than my looks. She is around good looking male models all the time. It makes me feel good that she has chosen me because it tells me that she is someone who can see beyond a pretty face and fashionable clothing. We are honest with each other, too. If she wants me to make an extra effort to dress up for a special occasion, she tells me, and I do it.
What about pressure from all those on-location fashion shoots with her on the road all the time?
The bottom line is that modeling is a job. It may seem glamorous, but it’s really just like other jobs. By looking at it that way, we avoid petty jealousies that create arguments. It’s not always easy when she has to travel to photo shoots, but we make sure to stay in close touch. We’ve established some ground rules to avoid problems. We trust each other, but both of us have agreed not to put ourselves in positions that might compromise trust. If she goes out for a drink with her coworkers after work, it’s always in a group, and the same applies to me. We talk every night before going to bed and say I love you. If we can keep our relationship strong when we are together, it will stay strong when we are apart.
What about the obsession with thinness?
We do have some arguments over this one. My girlfriend hardly eats anything and I worry about her health. We try to find a compromise. I promise to not nag her if she promises to eat healthy when she can.
Having a girlfriend who is a model does get me invited to cool parties, true, and dating her has increased my popularity. It could create problems if I let that go to my head. I’ve admitted to myself that I enjoy dating her because of her looks, but I try not to take advantage of it. Regardless of how she looks on the outside, it’s the person inside that I love. As long as we both keep that in mind, our relationship can survive anything.
The author writes for relationship and dating sites.