It is very devastating to lose someone you love very much through a break up. You may be desperately looking forward to getting them back even if it means engaging yourself in risky behaviors only to have them back. Okay you don’t need to do this since there are very constructive ways you can use to win your ex back and maintain a healthy relationship.
The first thing you need to do is that you be proud although this may be hard in the first few days after the break up. This is an important step. Retaining pride in yourself will more likely help you to get up sooner and spend less time wallowing in your problems. This will make you appear attractive and much happier.
You need to think about the issues and problems that lead to the break up. Think about the actions of both yourself and your partner since a break up is rarely the cause of one partner. However, you need to own up to your own mistakes and take steps to prove to your ex that you are a changed person. If they dumped you they are unlikely to take you back if you are the same person that they broke up with in the first place
In case you are the one who left the other partner, it will be hard to get the ex back since you already broke their heart and trust in you. It is always easy to break trust but very hard to earn it back. This is true during a break up and afterwards. In most cases a woman will feel upset for long than one might think and issues may arise long after the break up has happened.
Giving your ex the space they need to vent their negative feelings and work through their break up is another constructive and healthy way of winning a ex back. For most women this can mean working through the issues that had been held in past relationships. Most women forget very little and are more often influenced by things that happened throughout the length of the relationship.
After some time has passed, there is nothing wrong with casually approaching your ex. Make sure you behave in a friendly manner making sure that your are not coming across too soon as if you want to start the relationship immediately. You will not be able to pick up immediately where you left off. This usually takes some time for both parties to build up trust in each other again.
If you remain proud and you do not wallow, keep working on your personal issues. Try to think about the issues your partner may have. Give your ex some space so that they can get back carefully and casually. By doing this you will have done healthy and constructive ways to get an ex back into your life and hopefully forge a healthy and beneficial relationship.